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Fun fact, fingering is another name for 4ply yarn, and I still snicker about that. Old ladies who came into the shop asking for fingering. I mean, it's brilliant!

Thank you for this I needed to hear it. We need to ask better questions than, is this feminist? If the answer is yes or no then it is a reductive question. Because feminism is all of the things you said, not just one thing. And it sure as f@ck ain't binary!

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This is the best 😅 and yes!

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Toddler brain is not just a Poor Thing thing, or a you thing hehehe

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Omg that’s hilarious! Needed it, too

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Don't forget there's also 'Light Fingering' yarn... which type do the little old ladies prefer? 😜😂

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And this is why the left never gets much traction because we’re all too busy arguing amongst ourselves about whether or not something is feminist enough. Then you have the right who literally welcome anyone 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 The left is great (and right about many things), but occasionally we could lighten up, give people a bit more grace, and fucken enjoy things 😜

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I swear to God if you saw my DMs today - it's just relentlessly telling me I'm not doing this right or that right like cool what the fuck are you doing?

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Not cool, but then they know not when nor where their message reaches you. You’re doing fine and your writing helped me today!

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Thank you e hoa ♥️

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You said this so much better than I could have, thank you. We need to spend more time hassling the actual bad guys.

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Love this Emily! ❤️ Probably not very feminist 🤷‍♀️but I’m loving the work of the Irish rugby team social media person, every so often they come up with classics like this https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2fpIAes879/?igsh=MWZ3MWFsNGRseWpyMg== please enjoy this IG reel of some rugby lads enjoying themselves at the beach!

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You had me at irish rugby team lol

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YES!!!! I studied film at University, I know how to analyse a film, but also, most of the time, I don't want to? I want to lose myself to the story, to the world the story is in.

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💯 I studied film as well and the best of my lecturers always taught us not to over reach or over analyse - it feels like that constantly happens with film critique these days. You can read almost anything into any film so you gotta be smart enough to understand when it’s the film makers intent and when it’s your own biases kicking in.

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Despite never knowing the half of whatever or whoever you're talking about, I appreciate your column. It gives me different perspectives.

Thank you

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Haha this is a wonderful compliment thank you ❤️❤️

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Thank you for articulating this thing. It reminds me of a convo I had with a friend recently where she said she didn't like the Barbie movie because it was claiming to be feminist but it wasn't. And thinking about it later, I'm like, i don't think Barbie was trying to be a feminist movie. The media and conversations people were having about it on social media were trying to make it a feminist movie. I think it was just trying to be a fun movie that explored Barbie's place in our culture, which is complicated and Barbie means different things to different people and I think it captured that.

Also I am just having a lot of appreciation for fun movies right now. I feel like for a while there movies weren't allowed to be fun and now we get to have fun movies again? I just watched Joy Ride today and it was SO much fun and also had heartwarming moments that made me cry - more of that, please!

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YES! I had a friend watch it and say the same and I'm like - I saw it dressed in pink with all of my friends on opening night and I loved it. Of course seeing it six months later, alone, with all of the ridiculous feminist discourse running through your head you won't like it as much. Just enjoy the film! It's funny! The costumes are great! A lot of it is relateable! It's camp!

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No way I'm unsubscribing, having a giggle and nodding along (the demand that movies be ALL THE THINGS, ALL THE TIME makes my teeth hurt, sometimes I just want to watch something pretty/silly/hot), then you hit us with "Being a feminist sucks a lot of the time..." 3 paragraphs of how I feel about feminism every day, why I struggle to explain the joy and frustration and importance of it to my son and daughter. Thank you Emily, not going anywhere.

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Thank you Marie!! ♥️♥️♥️

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I don’t need the overt sex scenes or references in my viewing but I completely and utterly agree with you that we all just need to be able to enjoy ourselves without so much overanalysing 😫 did you see the recent “news” about all the millennials panicking that they don’t have the baby faces they used to. They can’t cope with aging because they see so much of themselves in picture and video. Overanalysing again! Just live!

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I think I might have meant GenZ, the ones who aren’t yet 30...

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And don’t worry I’m not about to unsubscribe because we like different things!

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No really, you’d lose subscribers over using one term in one post? Surely not! We’re better than that, I believe. Update if I’m wrong, still deciding if I like humanity....

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Haha I lost two paying subscribers immediately!

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Oh! My pearls! Well, we can’t all be one sided cardboard cutouts. Guess it’s just us dirty folk and those who can tolerate difference left now. Carry on!

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I hoped you’d like Poor Things! I had a great time at that screening :)

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It was (for me) a wonderful bit of escapism

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😂😂😂😂 I loved this Emily, even though I haven’t seen Poor Things (my 18 year old daughter ended up going to see it on her own when a friend couldn’t make it. She said she loved it but was very relieved to be alone and surrounded by empty seats as she would have been dying inside at the sex scenes😂 - fairly sure I traumatised her by taking her and her twin sister to see Parasite in their early teens).

And I thought Saltburn was a bit crap😝

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Haha there's sooo much sex 😂

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Blistering!

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Superb breakdown Emily.

What are you on, by the way?🤗

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Haha high on life and lack of sleep baby 😅

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Petition for all your posts to include at least something about fingering, please.

Also, I got my hair cut way more mullet and every day when I walk past the Iron Claw poster in the train station I have to desperately ask for reassurance from my friends that I am sexier than Zac Efron (consensus seeming to be that he’s super sexy but the hair cut looks better on me, therefore I am sexier).

That’s the real feminist debate of the ages.

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I saw it with my husband and twenty-one year old, son and we loved it, thought it was glorious and had lots of fun discussions about it afterwards (once they got fed up listening to me banging on about it being a Scottish writer and the book was originally set in Glasgow 😀). I saw Saltburn by myself and loved it - thought it was ravishing (in the very best way).

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Saw it the other day - loved it! Funny and strange and poking at social absurdity while being absurd. Made us think too...

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