I was once at a Plunket parenting seminar for new mums (WHY?!? I don’t know. Masochism) and a mum asked which was the best parenting manual as they all gave conflicting advice. An ancient woman at the back of the room loudly piped up, “your baby is the book! Read the baby!”. I gleefully went home and threw those crappy books away 🥳
My 'best' advice as a brand new mum was from a nurse at our GP. She said "people will give you heaps of advice. You just do what feels right for you".
It really was just what I needed to hear - I felt seen and grateful. There's so much that people say is the right way to do something. It felt so affirming to be told I could be the judge and it was OK to say/think "well that's not going to work for us"
That is truly the best advice you could ever give a mum. What a special nurse she was.
I remember my neighbour telling me her phone was bombarded with advice all day and night from well-meaning relatives and friends, when her son was a baby. She said she used to read the messages and cry because she thought all of them were telling her she was doing everything wrong ☹
And it does feel like that at times... you're so emotionally fragile as a new mum that all the advice does often sound like criticism, even when it's not intended that way.
I was once at a Plunket parenting seminar for new mums (WHY?!? I don’t know. Masochism) and a mum asked which was the best parenting manual as they all gave conflicting advice. An ancient woman at the back of the room loudly piped up, “your baby is the book! Read the baby!”. I gleefully went home and threw those crappy books away 🥳
My 'best' advice as a brand new mum was from a nurse at our GP. She said "people will give you heaps of advice. You just do what feels right for you".
It really was just what I needed to hear - I felt seen and grateful. There's so much that people say is the right way to do something. It felt so affirming to be told I could be the judge and it was OK to say/think "well that's not going to work for us"
That advice is all and everything ❤️
That is truly the best advice you could ever give a mum. What a special nurse she was.
I remember my neighbour telling me her phone was bombarded with advice all day and night from well-meaning relatives and friends, when her son was a baby. She said she used to read the messages and cry because she thought all of them were telling her she was doing everything wrong ☹
And it does feel like that at times... you're so emotionally fragile as a new mum that all the advice does often sound like criticism, even when it's not intended that way.
That nurse was bang on, so so true ❤❤❤
Yes! And the photo!!!!!
😭💕 So so true xx
Oh my heart 💕
All of this 🖤
Yes, this! ❤️