Emily, once again you are spot on. And lest I seem smug, I also found myself thinking these monster thoughts with regards to the recent murder of Lena on Owairaka. I thought what could make someone so monstrous as to prey on such a vulnerable person. But it’s not rocket science and it’s so ordinary that it’s downright sad. Because he believed he could, and decided to do it (though of course I haven’t ever spoken to the man to confirm). It hurts that such systemic violence is acted upon so often and seemingly so casually. Thank you for your ferocity, your accountability and your marvellous, active connection to others. I’m so sorry you’ve been having such a rough time. It totally sucks. But you mean a lot to a lot of people and I appreciate you and your work enormously. Sending love. X
Totally agree, it’s a simple case of domestic violence ending in murder.
You may think me very cynical ....but I believe that many men have a varying degree of belief that they are in some way, shape or form superior to women. It’s likely that this biblical teaching has become entrenched in the male psyche over the centuries, whether religious or not.
Most western men would obviously try to suppress these feelings and bury them deep as it’s just not an acceptable ideology but for some these buried feelings of superiority are a big reason why they continue hurt women. Combined with their violent/aggressive natures and a sense of frustration at being robbed of what they think is their right to control and dominate women.
These attitudes persist all over the world so to expect western men not to have an ounce of this misogeny is just naive.
It’s very depressing to think about and I’d love to be wrong so sock it to me if you think so but I truly believe that violence against women and girls is not going away....the question is, how do men change a habit of a 1000 lifetimes and do they even want to?
I remember when you wrote about your mentor and all the emotions finding out. It was one of my first times reading that sticks out. It was such a well written piece, I became a fan.
The mainstream media dialogue, and the direction they are steered in for profit, plays a huge part in how perpetrators are protected. The re-victimisation in cyclic patterned social systems that favour one party and strip the other bare like they were the one at fault. It all gets so tiring.
Emily, once again you are spot on. And lest I seem smug, I also found myself thinking these monster thoughts with regards to the recent murder of Lena on Owairaka. I thought what could make someone so monstrous as to prey on such a vulnerable person. But it’s not rocket science and it’s so ordinary that it’s downright sad. Because he believed he could, and decided to do it (though of course I haven’t ever spoken to the man to confirm). It hurts that such systemic violence is acted upon so often and seemingly so casually. Thank you for your ferocity, your accountability and your marvellous, active connection to others. I’m so sorry you’ve been having such a rough time. It totally sucks. But you mean a lot to a lot of people and I appreciate you and your work enormously. Sending love. X
Totally agree, it’s a simple case of domestic violence ending in murder.
You may think me very cynical ....but I believe that many men have a varying degree of belief that they are in some way, shape or form superior to women. It’s likely that this biblical teaching has become entrenched in the male psyche over the centuries, whether religious or not.
Most western men would obviously try to suppress these feelings and bury them deep as it’s just not an acceptable ideology but for some these buried feelings of superiority are a big reason why they continue hurt women. Combined with their violent/aggressive natures and a sense of frustration at being robbed of what they think is their right to control and dominate women.
These attitudes persist all over the world so to expect western men not to have an ounce of this misogeny is just naive.
It’s very depressing to think about and I’d love to be wrong so sock it to me if you think so but I truly believe that violence against women and girls is not going away....the question is, how do men change a habit of a 1000 lifetimes and do they even want to?
Spot on Emily. Clear , concise and devastingly accurate. Wise woman. Thankyou
I remember when you wrote about your mentor and all the emotions finding out. It was one of my first times reading that sticks out. It was such a well written piece, I became a fan.
The mainstream media dialogue, and the direction they are steered in for profit, plays a huge part in how perpetrators are protected. The re-victimisation in cyclic patterned social systems that favour one party and strip the other bare like they were the one at fault. It all gets so tiring.
Excellent Emily.