Oh I desperately want to read this book. I adore kids, but as a no-income-no-kids, lesbian, neurodiverse couple it just doesn't make sense for us.
I know I'd be an awesome mum and that our kids would be happy and loved. But I also know it takes all my energy just to look after myself, and it doesn't feel fair to me to sacrifice my own wellbeing for a person who doesn't even exist yet.
And tbh, if I was in a hetero relationship I'd probably have 'accidentally' gotten pregnant by now, so I'm grateful that I had to make a conscious decision.
But I'm a pretty damn epic aunty to all the kids in my life, and I get the grinning, squealing, tackle hugs I need.
I was part of the otherhood until 9ish years ago. Following the failure of my third relationship, thanks in part to the fallout from my second, I moved to a small town where the prospects of me finding an Other Half were, shall we say, slim. And there I stayed from the age of 28 to 36. It was looking very like that was it for me. I wonder if there is space in the book for women who just didn't find the right person in time, and didn't want to do it alone.
I’m sure there is, they told me there’s been a big focus on having heaps of different experiences. There’s so many reasons why women don’t have tamariki.
I love this bit from Kathryn because of how universally useful it is:
“For other people wanting to make positive change, I would recommend clearly identifying the problem, coming up with a possible solution, and then identifying the person who might be able to help you make it happen. “
Cos it’s so true! There are so many things that need fixing in the world and it’s so hard to know where to start but this formula is great.
I saw the proposed title of the anthology 'Otherhood, and I knew at once it applied to me.
It was a hard decision to submit an essay but I'm glad I did. Part of me is thrilled my essay was accepted, part of me is terrified that it means people are going to read it.
Oh I can’t wait to read your essay! It’s a scary thing being vulnerable and putting your words out into the world - thank you for doing that ❤️ I know this anthology is going to make a huge difference in so many lives ❤️
Oh I desperately want to read this book. I adore kids, but as a no-income-no-kids, lesbian, neurodiverse couple it just doesn't make sense for us.
I know I'd be an awesome mum and that our kids would be happy and loved. But I also know it takes all my energy just to look after myself, and it doesn't feel fair to me to sacrifice my own wellbeing for a person who doesn't even exist yet.
And tbh, if I was in a hetero relationship I'd probably have 'accidentally' gotten pregnant by now, so I'm grateful that I had to make a conscious decision.
But I'm a pretty damn epic aunty to all the kids in my life, and I get the grinning, squealing, tackle hugs I need.
Arohanui Eleanor ❤️ I bet you’re an amazing aunty. I’m so grateful for all the aunties in my kids lives!
I was part of the otherhood until 9ish years ago. Following the failure of my third relationship, thanks in part to the fallout from my second, I moved to a small town where the prospects of me finding an Other Half were, shall we say, slim. And there I stayed from the age of 28 to 36. It was looking very like that was it for me. I wonder if there is space in the book for women who just didn't find the right person in time, and didn't want to do it alone.
I’m sure there is, they told me there’s been a big focus on having heaps of different experiences. There’s so many reasons why women don’t have tamariki.
I love this bit from Kathryn because of how universally useful it is:
“For other people wanting to make positive change, I would recommend clearly identifying the problem, coming up with a possible solution, and then identifying the person who might be able to help you make it happen. “
Cos it’s so true! There are so many things that need fixing in the world and it’s so hard to know where to start but this formula is great.
Isn’t it great? Really inspiring.
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I saw the proposed title of the anthology 'Otherhood, and I knew at once it applied to me.
It was a hard decision to submit an essay but I'm glad I did. Part of me is thrilled my essay was accepted, part of me is terrified that it means people are going to read it.
Oh I can’t wait to read your essay! It’s a scary thing being vulnerable and putting your words out into the world - thank you for doing that ❤️ I know this anthology is going to make a huge difference in so many lives ❤️
Great blog thanks. What comes later is the no grandchildren thing. It is a reality even for many of us who did have children.